Road to Honomida
Read time: 5 minutes
Here are 6 ideas to help you on your self-healing journey and live a smarter, richer, more impactful life:
Give it space
Saying “No” matters more
Magic of patience and perseverance
Lessons come in silence
Be intentional
Short Story: Road to Honomida
Give It Space
Not everything needs a reaction. Sometimes things just need space.
Saying “No” Matters More
In life, what matters more are the things we say no to than the things we say yes to.
Magic of Patience & Perseverance
“Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish.” — John Quincy Adams
Lessons Come in Silence
The wisdom you seek is within you. The most powerful lessons come in silence. Your unconscious holds the answers. But you have to stop running and be still to hear them.
Be Intentional
Trying to do too much at once leads to burnout. This week reminded me to be intentional with my time and focus on what really matters.
Short Story: Road to Honomida
Sebastian didn’t leave due to anger or spite.
There was no dramatic goodbye. No fight. No breakdown. No midlife crisis.
He just woke up one morning and knew, it was time to leave.
The dreams had been with him for years. Always the same word: Honomida. [1]
Sometimes on a highway sign. Sometimes in a message he couldn’t read. Sometimes as an Apple Maps destination showing him arriving at this place called Honomida.
He used to brush it off. But the dreams kept coming. And the ache in his heart kept growing.
He started paying attention. Studied Jung. Tracked symbols. Started to realize Honomida wasn’t a place.
It was a call.
And the only way to answer it was to leave behind the version of himself he’d spent years perfecting.
So Sebastian packed one bag. Only what he needed.
He wrote a short note and left it in his wife’s bathroom vanity. No long explanation. Just what was true.
Then he stood in the living room. Looked around at everything he’d built. The house. The career. The version of him that made sense to everyone else.
He took one long breath. And walked out the door.
No destination. No clear next step. Just a direction. Just the call.
The road was quiet. Uneventful at times. He’d second-guess himself. Wonder if he was being foolish.
But every time he thought about turning back, something deeper said: Keep going.
He didn’t find Honomida. Not in the way he expected. No sign. No arrival. No moment of clarity where it all made sense.
But somewhere along the way, he stopped needing to find it.
He realized the search was the point. That leaving was the healing. That walking into the unknown was him finally choosing himself.
Notes:
[1] Honomida is not real. It’s a destination my subconscious has shared with me in dreams. It represents the new season of my life I am embarking on, one that is unknown. We all have a Honomida. That pull you feel toward becoming whole. Toward becoming free. Toward becoming the version of you that is no longer performing. The version that is finally true.
Thanks for reading!
— M. Malik
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